Tuesday, 28 July 2015

OverComing Negative Thoughts & Being More Confident

Overcoming Negative Thoughts & Being More Confident

You have probably read this title and thought deep! for Neerus Lifestyle! but it is a part of my life past and present and it continues to still be a work in progress for me . Blogging is a great platform and youtube videos to get your story across in your own way which could inspire give tools to people to challenge their thoughts on things like this.

Is there a time when you have had continued negative thoughts running through your mind? do you have a story to tell? i would love to hear whats helped you sharing is caring so lets care.

Here are a few things that have helped me in my self help discovery:
Self Affirmations

Lets start at the beginning. Babies are born happy cute and pretty much content as long as they are fed clothed bathed and cuddled. Have you ever observed a baby sleep its just so peaceful no care in the world just peace all over their face. Not corrupted by the worlds standards judgements and confinements. As this child gets older say 14/15 it starts emulating things it sees reads watches without even realising it, the subconscious mind is powerful whatever you feed it , it doesn't process if its good for you it just feeds it as information. This is where man made society pressures boundaries limits and barriers come up.

Babies are like a clean sponge ready to soak in with awe whatever they are taught , they are curious and constantly learning new things, like how to eat where there hands are what there feet do! how cute right? and then we start being and doing what society feeds us and wants us to conform to.

You are probably wondering what does this have to do with confidence and  negativity, It does when someone else has the power to tell you what to do or has that influence for you to self doubt yourself , subconsciously you have just given your power away.  Negative thoughts start filling that sponge and before you know it , it is full of a running script of fear bad thoughts and limiting feelings, alot of the time a individual is not even aware of any of this and instead will keep discussing the symptoms rather than reflecting within and seeing what the cause could be. 

Self awareness is powerful when we can become aware that our mind is so very powerful and contributes to the choices we are making in life , stress factors, the people we liaise with and even health ailments. You will start looking at things slightly differently. What needs to be done to get rid of the limiting thought patterns?  de-clutter your mind and re-programme your mind its like training it again to think differently, remember your mind is powerful but it ultimately will do what you say so why not feed it happy powerful thoughts!.

There are 7 billion people on this planet earth should we really be cramming our minds with comparisons and negativity? should that pressure really be there? or is there a way to except and breathe knowing we are all beautiful and different and this is what shapes and colours the mind.

So how do we be at one with ourselves and create better thought patterns? One way of doing this is powerful positive affirmations which are small sentences and points written and said over and over again out aloud or to you in the mirror for 3 months at a stretch. it has worked for me and it can for you. Some of my affirmations:

I love and Approve of myself
Life loves me , all is well
My Mind is brilliant
I choose to feel good about myself
Happiness is a choice i make
I love every cell in my body

These wonderful tools were learnt by a wonderful lady who has been my mentor to me since i was 17/18 you can heal your life a NewYork Best Seller  www.louisehay.com/, the message was simple plant the right seed in your mind nurture the thought feed it water it take care of those thoughts be consistent and watch that seed become a flower, its not an over night thing but with time belief and taking care of who you surround yourself with it can and will happen.

Meditation works wonders with this as it calms the mind and brings clarity to your thoughts and one learns to look within for answers and solutions rather than looking at external things to help , which from my own experience will be only temporary. Mediation can take on different forms can be visualisation or then counting or listening to someone in a guided mediation, its one tool that works for me.

So going back to negative thoughts and not being confident. I think i can definitely  say that i suffered from that for many years, the self doubt that went on with any decisions that i made would be physically and emotionally debilitating . However i learnt much earlier on as mentioned before that my mind holds the key to my happiness i need to be gentle with it feed it good thoughts and choose the life i want and the people i want to surround myself with honestly it changed my world. Suddenly my choices were more clear i lived life without fear i didn't let peoples opinions bother me and allowed my life to have no limits . Today the lady that i am is to do with the desire i had within myself to self reflect and know that i just like anyone else  can choose a happy life, you just have to want it real bad. My father has been my biggest guide in this journey and to be honest we share that commonality of positivity and be that which you wish to become and my mother just loves life she gets up everyday with this burst of energy that makes my pace slow. Hay House readings and authors attached to this self help genre have been amazing in aiding my journey in this world. 

Remember start the day being grateful be gentle with your mind and allow self awareness to set in once that is there you can re-check in with yourself the types of thoughts your are having throughout the daand kindly ask your mind to be present in the hear and now knowing life loves you and has your back.

Love NeerusLifeStyle
Unapologetic & Unscripted 

Monday, 20 July 2015

38th Birthday Diary Indulgence!

Follow My 38th Birthday Diary Indulgence!

Who loves a birthday sheer indulgence and soaking in the love presents good food that gets thrown your way?! yeah im the same i love a day off with family or my partner in crime just to meander and indulge. 

Growing up for some is scary but honestly it is just a number, don't go on that. You have life experience stories to tell, good or bad, and guess what?! you have survived and are still here to tell the story. Truly living is being in awe of life everyday now this may seems cliché but a bright sunny day waking up in a comfy bed, with family, knowing there is food in the fridge, a home, loved ones surrounding you , a country where as a women you are completely  free to develop grow and express, are we not  lucky ? This is very special to have and i hope most of you on your birthdays  can take a moment to be grateful for what is and just be.

This post is not to boast no way that's not me or my style a great birthday can even be sitting at home with loving family playing board games eating good food and laughing. This is just simply what i happened to do on my mine, i want to be able to share it and perhaps inspire some of you to check some lovely spots we have in central London.

Places We Visited:

  • greenberrycafe.co.uk
  • uk.spacenk.com- Primrose Hill
  • selfridges.com
  • www.hixatselfridges.co.uk
  • www.quilon.co.uk
  • www.stjamescourthotel.co.uk
The day started with sheer leisure, you know the one where you linger over breakfast while reading and watching your favourite bloggers and vloggers ! getting ready was such a fun to decide what makeup and style took my fancy for the day 
excited me no end. I went for a pink sleeveless top with a black skirt and a leather jacket . My shoes were from Clarks small heel so very comfortable great buy. 

I had chosen much earlier on to my birthday that i wanted to spend the day in London! so first stop was going to be greenberrys cafe that i had heard so much about. Tanya Burr has it mentioned it many times and i felt it needed to be done. My partner 
in crime and i were certainly not disappointed . We both chose breakfast style lunch i had the veggie breakkie sunny side up eggs with sour-dough toast Halloumi grilled avocado grilled tomato just yummy and the other dish was the classic eggs benidcit. The yolk i have to say was
golden yellow the taste mouth watering . It was very busy so i would recommend booking there as we did.

Veggie Breakfast

Classic Eggs Benidict

At this point we had eaten too much there was no denying this ! either a knapp was in order or then a lovely menander and a  fresh air walk . Primrose hill is very scenic lots of greenery lovely property's quaint little high street. The enjoyment is meandering walking into sweetshops with no intention to buy! there was even a quaint bookshop which had very unique books and had that musty smell of old papers
 i loved the shop it was my dream a small space with books crammed from top to bottom. 
Of course my walk wouldnt have been the same if i hadnt gone to Space N K , i love the makeup in there. Items Bought: ByTerry Eyeshadow Misty Rock and Chantelle lipstick in Tulip.

Space NK- By Terry Misty Rock & Chantelle Lipstick in Tulip

ByTerry Misty Rock

Next stop Selfridges just such a fun atmosphere there so much to do and see honestly i could just make a day out of that. which shhhhhhhh the rest of the day was spent there! One of my birthday gifts was a gift card to spend in Selfridge anywhere in the store food makeup clothes anything. So my first pit stop Yep! makeup i bought Tom Ford stick creamy foundation oh yes sheer indulgence and not something i do everyday but this is different,  amazing consistency new stick coverage is flawless. Next buy Laura Mercier Primer , i have never bought a primer and thought i would try it and see how it effects the finish and i do like it i have worn if a few days now and it leaves a shine and a dewy finish

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Tom Ford Foundation/

Chantelle Lipstick In Tulip

Next stop in Selfridge's inevitably had to be a food and drink place  on the first floor of selfridges towards the bag department is a restaurant called Hix its a small, low key good ambience style bar and restaurant finger food on the menu plus great cocktails and mocktails , we had the fish fingers, salmon, fishcakes and aspargus with a lovely lemon and herb dip just yummy, oh and a peach Bellini! 

Just to add a slice of cake was bought out and i was sung to as well i turned the colour of my lipstick but it was a sweet thought!

Did i mention that i went into the bag department after and found a Moschino bag designed as a leather jacket immediately fell in love with it and had to take a picture and share it with you all , how cute is this bag each zip shown is a compartment for the bag . Happy days!

Last stop Quillon restaurant a south asian cuisine , its part of the Taj hotel in St James Court Hotel . I loved the customer serivce here, the food had wonderful presentation . South asian food has a lot of coconut added to the food but it tasted beautiful and well worth a trip .


My birthday wouldn't have been the same had my loved ones not been present with me, this is one birthday of mine some birthdays have just been family and friends reconnecting . Whatever you do celebrate your time here and be grateful for things that are rather than not! Be happy healthy don't stop growing learning and being curious about life. 

Lots of Love Neerus Lifestyle

Unscripted & From The Heart


Monday, 13 July 2015

Neerus Lifestyle: Our Trip To Santorini- GreeceTravelling is a bug ...

Neerus Lifestyle: Our Trip To Santorini- Greece
Travelling is a bug ...
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Saturday, 4 July 2015

Top 5 Red Shaded Lipsticks:

A girls best friend a good lippy!. You just cant go wrong i do sometimes wonder why it took me so long to get the confidence to pop on some red lips and go. The whole of my 20's i thought about it and reached the orange shade  thinking in my mind this is as adventurous as it gets! moving away from the neutrals of body-shop wasn't easy ! alas to realise the days when you dont fancy dressing up too much how do you give the impression you are? well  a good pair of jeans, heels, white T-shirt, black leather jacket or fitted black jacket subtle makeup and POW a red lip, you are officially  ready to go.

So here are my top 5 Red Shades that are long wearing, great shades, reasonable priced and not too drying on the lips you know me dryness is a no no! 

Mac- Russian Red, No7 Soft Paprika, Deluxe No 1, Kate Moss Rimmel 107, Mac-Ruby Woo

Mac Russian Red

Mac red shades are probably the first ones you should go for if you are a newbie to red shades. They are redder than red such strong colours and you can control the amount you want on the lips, the dabbing effect and blotting works wonders to give the subtle red look without it overwhelming you ( i say the reder the better) , this with a smudged outline also in Mac works a treat.

No 7 Soft Paprika:

This is a new shade that i found in my local pharmacy in the picture perhaps with the lighting looks alot more redder than what it is! it has more of a orange red tone to it, so not as intense as the lipsticks above but a lovely warm shade , has a slight twist to it that if put it on with a heavy hand can have the POW effect, love the name the packaging is subtle dark brown case, easy to use. The lippie doesn't melt too quick in this heat! and good one to buy if you are a newbie to the darker stand-out range.

Deluxe No 1

Deluxe Red no 1 siren colour. Little story to this i hadn't really stepped out for the whole day and decided i would pop out to my local large supermarket for a spot of food shopping only to get side tracked with the makeup section come on hands up girls who end up making a Friday night out of this! guilty as charged so this is where this lipstick came to my attention one of those new introductory range super cheap velvety feel, does have the tendency to  come off easily  but for the price and the colour its worth it . Its not a matt finish but i like the shade it reminds me a little of the Sephora gloss lipsticks that have the lip balm feel to it.

Kate Moss Rimmel No 107

This Kate Moss lipstick has been my favourite for awhile now. Its is a deep Maroon colour that is so beautiful during the winter months or the summer evenings, works well with subtle eye shadow slight flused pink cheeks and this colour works a treat. Its a sophisticated colour that can be worn formally or even casually with a a pair of jeans. Its my favourite colour .

Red lipsticks are a girls best-friend and i do think ladies need to be confident in wearing them, don't leave it like me in your 30's to then realise what a  fabulous item you have been denying your pretty face . This is the ultimate staple make-up item that needs to be in every girls bag. Just like a LBD ( little black dress) so does the red shade. It makes the outfit a WOW factor so come on girls start popping this colour on.